I was scrolling through Twitter the other day and saw a tweet related to the recent allegations of sexual misconduct and abuse of power in the SBC. This particular tweet caught my attention because of its use of “with us or against us” logic. Essentially, the accusation was that if you aren’t willing to speak out against what is happening in the SBC, then you are encouraging the behavior of those who abuse their power. I feel like there might be more options than that.
Ultimately, while I don’t feel any particularly need to join the social media storm against the SBC, one thought stuck in my mind: I am raising three children in a world filled with hashtags, “with us or against us” logic, and social media “cancelling” (for the record, I had to google what it means to “cancel” someone on Twitter).
I don’t want my kids to be a part of the social media activism or “cancel” culture. In my estimation, the sort of online storms that put pressure on individuals or organizations are, at best, an unfortunate necessary. I am concerned that as a faith community, we just haven’t thought through how using this medium to exert pressure on individuals and organizations conveys God to the world or how it forms and shapes us as God’s people. I appreciate some of the results, but I’m not so sure the ends justify the means.
I’m also less-than confident that social media activism has the ability to effect the sort of deep transformation that would disrupt the underlying dynamics of the church’s culture rather than allowing for more cosmetic changes. As Gladwell notes, “The drawbacks of networks scarcely matter if the network isn’t interested in systemic change–if it just wants to frighten or humiliate or make a splash–or if it doesn’t need to think strategically. But if you’re taking on a powerful and organized establishment you have to be a hierarchy.” He goes on to note that social media activism “shifts our energies from organizations that promote strategic and disciplined activity and toward those which promote resilience and adaptability. It makes it easier for activists to express themselves, and harder for that expression to have any impact.” I’m not 100% sure Gladwell is correct, but it seems that there is at least some truth in his critique of social media activism.
Raising awareness and making accusations through tweets, posts, and comments because we have allowed leaders or organizations to get by with a little arrogance, some light bullying, a few white lies, or a bit of partiality can’t be the church’s go-to strategy. When we won’t address the small things, we almost have to expect the big things. It seems to me that social media activism is the unfortunate, logical conclusion that comes from our failure to do something before a situation reaches a crisis point. It is an expression of exasperation with our willingness to bend (or break) our individual and collective integrity to engage in the fool’s errand of trying to preserve the church’s reputation. I prefer to think of what D.L. Moody said, “If I take care of my character, my reputation will take care of itself.”
My doubts about social media activism and my desire to see my kids do more than “cancel” don’t mean that I’m seeking to enable bad or abusive behavior. Instead, my hope is that in returning to some more basic Christian disciplines that are aimed at accountability, integrity, and compassion, we all might find a better way to demonstrate what it means to live and walk daily with God as a community of faith. I’m sure there are more disciplines that might be mentioned, but these four seemed to me to be most compelling:
- Don’t abandon the brethren- It can be easy to get complacent and begin to ignore the rough edges of those within the Christian community. But remember that we are called to “exhort one another every day, as long as it is called ‘today,’ that none of you may be hardened by the deceitfulness of sin” (Heb 3:13). Don’t let those who are fellow members of the body go astray. Be a friend to them. Don’t let them continue in rebellion even for a day. If all of us were diligent in caring for one another in this way, we might avoid many of the scandals that seem to plague the body.
- Remember Titus 2:7-8- The Christian life is not simply about being right or holding the right theological position, it is about doing so with “integrity, dignity, and sound speech that cannot be condemned.” Do not give up your character for a cause. Rather, address the causes God puts on your heart with all the character you can muster. You will not demonstrate God simply by being right. You will not show what it means to walk with God and to be part of a people set apart by bludgeoning others with the truth, but by conveying the truth with an unwavering spirit of kindness, compassion, love, and integrity.
- Practice justice with lament– The church is not as it should be. That is cause for lament. We should be heart broken about those in the church who have not lived faithfully, have abused their positions, or have otherwise taken advantage of God’s people. As you seek justice, do so from a place of deep sorrow. As James says, “…let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger; for the anger of man does not produce the righteousness of God.” Weed out any desire for vengeance in your own heart and find it in yourself to “…love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you, pray for those who abuse you” (Lk 6:27-28). Even as you confront those who are doing wrong, do so knowing that God is always able to restore, forgive, and bring peace where none seems available.
- Fight the right enemy– In Ephesians, Paul tells us that “…we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but agains the rulers, against the authorities, agains the cosmic powers over this present darkness, against the spiritual forces of evil in heavenly places” (Eph 6:12). Don’t fight a spiritual battle with the weapons of the world. It is not that you should shrink away from conflict or use prayer as an excuse not to confront sin. It is not that you should shirk your responsibilities as a member of the body. Hold one another accountable, confront evil, and fight for unity and peace in Christ’s body. But, take care that you do not fight as the world fights. Instead, fight as one who understands that “we do not wrestle against flesh and blood.”
My hope is that the next generation of the church will root out the sins that this generation has allowed to fester. Perhaps more than that, I pray that God will so move in the hearts of His people that living with anything other than a heart fully devoted to God will become unthinkable. Lord, let us be a people who love you with our whole heart, with our entire being, and with all our resources (Deut 6:5).